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When Should You Speak Up?

When should you speak up?





People would say:

  • never – “I’ll lose my job”, “I’ll make enemies”, “I won’t be respected for a difference of opinion”, “It’s not my problem. I don’t want to get involved”, “I don’t like it but I need to live with it”, “I’m the peacemaker”, “I don’t want to cause trouble”, “People won’t like me”
  • sometimes – “If it’ll get me what I want”, “When it’s serious enough”, “When I’m asked for my opinion”
  • depends – “Depends on whether or not I have the time”, “Depends on how it will affect me”, “Depends on what other people think first”

And so people show up to work every day, put their heads down and say nothing unless spoken to.  In their personal lives, they repeat the same habit – speaking up very little to “keep the peace”.

The Inevitable

One day, as it will inevitably happen, there will be an explosion.

Everyone, at one time or another,  shows up at work and in their personal lives tired, irritable, and generally not well.  It’s all too much.  They blow.  They say something to someone and it’s not good.  All that pent up energy simply discharges.

Like a volcano, they have “blown their top”.  Pressure has built up so much, sometimes over many years, that the wrong thing is said to the wrong person with the wrong reaction!

What’s the Alternative?


Speaking up is not a one time event.  It’s a skill developed over time and the learning never stops.

When a person practices daily to speak up in work and social situations, that person increases their ability to communicate effectively.

When a person explodes, no one hears them.  Like a volcano, the eruption is so intense that people are taken aback by the intensity and the focus of others becomes to calm the person down instead of listening to what is being said.

Where Do You Start?

Start by deciding every day will be practice day.  When a difference of opinion arises, speak up even in benign situations such as where to have lunch.  Notice the words and tone of voice used and after the exchange, think about how the message could have been conveyed better or pat yourself on the back for a successful exchange.

Practice.  Practice.  Practice.

With practice, an eruption is unlikely to happen unless planned for a purpose.  Sometimes eruptions can be effective but great care is required in the execution.

If a person is always practicing expressing themselves, others will get used to it and a strong opinion won’t be such a shock.  Self-control will be easier and the message is likely to be heard even if the outcome is disagreement.

Expect Disagreement.

We are all so different.  What seems to be perfectly logical and make sense to one person, doesn’t to another.  Everyone expressing themselves in a respectful way often results in surprising outcomes where collaboration or co-operation may occur or a “truce” of sorts.  If not, at least everyone knows where everyone else stands on an issue which, in itself,  is a form of peace.  Dialogue can continue.

Lorraine Arams




How Do Seasons Affect Your Ability to Manage Your Time?

Do you alter how your time management with the seasons?



Did you ever think about it?  Did you ever think that the management of your time needs to be adjusted for each season?

It should.

Things Change All The Time for Everyone

Everything changes with each season.  Everything.  Your business, personal, family, social, and your day-to-day lives change as the seasons change.

Yet people don’t adjust their schedules and wonder why overwhelm or underwhelm happens.

All businesses have ebbs and high sales activity periods and more people are away at certain times of the year than others.  It impacts everyone in the business – covering for people away on vacation, directing workflows during peak times, connecting with clients during holiday periods, etc.

Every person’s social life is affected – summer presents a whole gamut of change from family reunions, bbqs, outdoor activities, vacations, etc.   It changes how we spend leisure time.

Every person makes changes in their routines – they might walk to and from work every day rather than take the bus in the Spring, Summer and Fall.   They might go for a walk after dinner during the Summer time but when school starts, it’s homework and extracurricular activities which pour onto the time table.  Each change is a time change.

Time Management is Never Static

Though most people think that time management is static, it is not.  People’s lives are constantly in some form of flux.  When a person looks at their calendar, changes must be reflected in how time is allocated.

For instance, at work, an individual may choose to be highly disciplined in the way time is used and yet, in their personal lives during the  summer, “go with the flow” time management is adopted with very few absolutes – bed and meal times are flexible, activity planning is random for the most part and a lot of “beach” time is included.  Alternatively, in the winter, everything is scheduled at work and at home to the minute.

When people have kids, going back to school poses new challenges fitting in school, homework and activity slots.  Today, parents find they must drive or accompany their children to most activities for a variety of modern day reasons; the parents’ time becomes very compressed after hours.  A more imaginative approach needs to be designed in order to fit in parents’ needs too.

During the Christmas period, people often find themselves exhausted and get sick as a result.  Why?  Because they haven’t made the adjustments in their schedules for all the seasonal activities which take place at that time of the year from gift buying to entertaining – they try to do it all as if nothing has changed.  It has.

Those who can anticipate and plan ahead aren’t frazzled by seasonal changes.

Why should this be important to you?

If you realize and understand this concept, you can plan ahead and avoid the fatigue and stress.  Choose the activities and adjust your schedule  – take some things out and put others in – it’ll get you in the “mood” for what’s to come!


Can you see how beneficial this can be for your health and  your ability to enjoy each changing season fully?

At first, it can seem awkward to think of altering your schedule this way, but when you reap the benefits, you’ll be happy you took the time to plan your time according to the seasonal differences.

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