Will it be fun or constructive or profitable or pleasurable? How do you know?
Everyone knows that no two weeks are identical. Some pleasures and some problems may exist through several weeks or months but the results of each week are quite different. We just never know what is lurking in the next minute, hour or day – it’s a big surprise every single day we awaken and begin living the day.
Are we puppets?
To some extent we are. There really is no way to predict what will happen to us during any particular 24 hours no matter how organized we are, no matter what great time management system we use and no matter how we “think” we control what happens in our world.
Because we simply cannot control everything in the world. We can’t control other people. People and events unfold in their own time and space. Some people feel they can control people and events and their power is omnipotent. Actually, it’s very limited. They create a tiny sphere in which they have the illusion that they are “in charge”. They are not. No matter how long someone has been “in charge”, it’s finite and limited.
How can you make your week the best it can be?
Control what you can. Calm down, smile and relax.
Watching the Masters this week-end, one young player seemed as though he was just having a game with his buddies during the four days of the competition. On the last day, when the pressure was the most intense to win, the “wheels fell off” as they so often do in sports. A sure thing can turn sour very easily.
The minute that tension is uncontrolled, it’ll “get you”! Things you wouldn’t normally say or do, you say and do. Like this young man, his weakness showed up as his mind let go of all it had learned and practiced during the weeks and months prior to the Masters. A tendency towards directing a particular stroke showed up. A massive lead disintigrated in minutes. Once the negative mind takes over, the game is lost.
4 things you can practice every day, all day long to keep you on top of your game:
a) take 3 deep breaths several times a day – don’t let tension build up. Put a recurring event in your electronic calendar to remind you every half hour.
b) exercise every minute you can – take the stairs instead of the elevator, take your coffee “for a walk”, walk for 10 minutes at lunch
c) have a picture on your desktop or on your wall or both which reminds you of relaxation – a beach you love, a mountain you hike all the time, your boat, a tent or campfire, etc. Change the pictures often so you don’t stop “seeing them”. Our mind gets used to something and we don’t notice it anymore.
d) control the thing you can control – your mind. Check your thoughts several times a day – how? By what you’re feeling. If you’re feeling dark and somber, your thoughts are negative. If you’re feeling light and airy, your thoughts are positive. Stay on the positive side – you can see so much more clearly from that vantage point!
Relaxation takes practice. Tension no so much.
Little things you do consistently throughout the day, every day, will help you make your week the best it can be no matter what happens.