Posts belonging to Category Time Management Tips



It’s so wonderful to be calm.  We love it, don’t we?  Even the most hyper of us love the feeling of calm.


In our busy world, calm seems to be at a premium.  If our cell phones aren’t ringing or vibrating, someone is honking at us.  At work, emails come in fast and furious, the phones ring, people “drop by” to talk, someone asks for help, and we run to the gym at lunch hour where the machines whirl, bang and people grunt and fret – oh, no, another pound!

How can we stay calm when from the time the alarm clock rings, we are surrounded by noise, demands and schedules?

Here are a few ways to help you “sneak in” some calm into your day, every day:

  1. Breathe:  On your computer, set an automatic reminder every hour on the hour, to take 10 deep breaths.  It’s a quick way to make sure the anxiety and stress doesn’t build up to a peak by the end of the day. Breath in down to your belly and breath out to empty your lungs.

  2. Stretch: Put another reminder on your computer every hour or hour and a half, to stretch your body.  Stress builds up in the body and stretching for 5 minutes several times a day can release your body from the tightness which can build up.

  3. Nature: Every single day, even if it is only for 15 minutes, go outside, smile at a dog, watch the wind in the trees – get back to nature somehow.  We’re indoors a lot and just that fact alone can start making us feel like a caged animal.  Free yourself, go outside, appreciate a flower!

  4. Gadget: Invest $10 in a stress squeeze ball and take it to meetings with you.  When you start feeling any negative feeling, squeeze the hell out of it!  You’ll feel better and stay in control of your feelings.

  5. The Written Word: Write down everything that is whirling around in your head.  It clears the brain and releases the emotion associated with them.

  6. Sleep: Schedule the sleep you need – all of it!  Sleep should be the most important part of your schedule.  Without sleep, all your activities take longer and your emotions are closer to the surface. You can waste a lot of time trying to get yourself to “wake up” or “energized”.  Use that time to sleep instead!

Calm is good!  Calm makes your day go much better even if someone screams at you for no reason!  Calm is a good habit to cultivate for the enormous benefits it gives us!

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Lorraine Arams

Why Do You Get Angry? Do You Know?

Angry?  Why?

Did you ever wonder why you get angry?

Yesterday, I was sitting quietly – it was a pretty good day.  Then someone said something.  I was upset.  My mood changed from okay to angry.

I observed myself and wondered why I get angry.  What is it in me which turns on the “fire” when something is said or done by someone else?

The television was on at the time.  They were showing some of the protesters in Egypt.  They were angry.  Why?

So I thought about anger while calming myself down.


It dawned on me that there is only reason why anyone gets angry:   not getting what they want – very simple!  How simple is that concept!

Books have been written about anger.  Workbooks have been written on how to deal with anger.  People are talking about it all the time or upset because someone else is angry at them.

Yet . . . the answer is so simple.

Why were the people in Egypt angry?  They were not getting freedom, democracy which to them translates to a better life for them and their families.  They were angry – they wanted a better life and weren’t getting it.

Why does a child get angry in a store?  Because the parent isn’t buying the candy the child  wants.

Why does a manager get angry at an employee?  Because the employee is not getting done what the manager has been assigned.

Why does a spouse get angry at the other?  One of the spouses is not doing what the other wants – help, hugs, support, caring, etc.


For me, understanding why often leads to finding good solutions.  In this case, I found a way to defuse my anger by asking myself:  “What am I not getting that I want?”  followed by, “What can I do to get it?”.

What that did for me was to quit wasting time reeling, and spend my time productively figuring how I could get what I wanted without the impact  an angry response would generate.

How was I going to convince the other person to give me what I wanted?

Concentrating on finding the words and the approach to communicating with them dispelled the emotion.  While my mind was busy innovating, there was no room for anything else.

Give it a try.  Drop me line.  Let me know if it works for you too.

Lorraine Arams



Off your goal rails?

It’s almost February.  By now, goals are a distant memory.  Life has taken over once again and dreams are put on the back burner until next year or maybe never.

It’s happened before, right?

Great excitement January 1st, great goals – you could see them in your mind’s eye.  You may even have gone through the process following some system you learned on the internet or in a course or a book.   You wrote them down. You were very specific what you wanted.  You even found a way to measure your goals.

Yet, nothing has happened.

Did you get overwhelmed?

Likely – work, family, exchanging gifts, cleaning up, and getting back to the routine of life – where is there time to fit in the goals?  The “goals” part could have been the problem – too many, too little time.

So you dropped the whole idea of achieving any of the goals because you didn’t have the time – so you thought.

Are you willing to try again?

Try the system on this site. It has a twist to it and will likely give you the best chance of achieving at the very least, one goal in 2011.  Success builds on success.  If you accomplish something with this system, then it will build on itself.  Give it a shot.  It’s free – the best price around!

Lorraine Arams

How Do You Measure a Goal You’ve Never Seen?

linking the partsHow can you ever possible measure something you’ve never seen?

This would seem to be a logical question.  However, in the previous post about specificity, you can easily see that any goal is actually measurable when you are clear about exactly what you want.

I used a car example.  Once you know all the details of the car, you can go online and find out what a car with those specific attributes will cost.  That’s your measurable – the cost of the car.  You know that when you have saved that much money, you can buy the car and your goal of owning that car is done – you’ve achieved it!  One of the steps will be easy to determine:  how much will you have to save each month and for how many months in order to attain that goal?

It’s the same with any goal you set.  Once the specifics have been worked out, the measurable can usually be quite easy to determine.

Do you think you can do it? Of course – it all starts with the details in the first part of SMART goal setting.

Lorraine Arams

Why Do Your Goals Have to be Specific?

Did you ever wonder why your goals need to have specificity to them?

The SMART system suggests that goals should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-based.

Why isn’t it good enough just to say,

  • “I want a new car”
  • “I want more money”
  • “I am working to a degree”

For some people, it might quite clear why specificity is a good idea but for others, the reason may not stand out immediately.

I didn’t at first.  I thought what’s wrong with just wanting a new car or more money.  Of course, there was nothing wrong with it except there is no real definition – could I see “more money” – how much more and for what?

Owning It

One of the most important aspects of goal setting is “owning the goal”.  In other words, you can see it in your mind’s eye and  you can feel the feeling of owning it, doing it or experiencing it.  How can anyone stir up pictures and emotions without a specific description?

Writing down the specifics of the goal makes it more concrete.  What does the goal look like when it is completed?

For instance, if it’s a new car, what color is it? What make is it? How much does it cost?  What does the interior look like?  What model year is it?  What extras does it have?  Does it have air conditioning?  What kind of tires does it require?  What’s the size of the engine and how much will it cost to fill up the tank?  Where will you keep it?  How will the car be used? What is the highest speed it will travel?  Does it have 4-wheel drive?

If the description is such that you can read it to yourself or someone else and actually “see it” and “feel it”, then you have been successful in being specific about your goal.

Once the goal is specific, the other factors are quite easy to fill in.  It is this first criteria which is the most challenging and most important of all.

Try it – see if you can make your goal so very specific that you can actually “see it” and “feel it”.

Lorraine Arams

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