Would You Like to Know Why You Aren’t Achieving Your Goals?

achieving goals

What happened?

You’ve taken the courses.  You’ve done the exercises.  You’ve thought it through.  You’ve written your goals down.  You’ve applied the SMART principles.  And yet . . . year after year, that’s where the goals seem to sit – on paper, going nowhere.

Life takes over.  That’s what many people say.

The deadlines  come and go.  Nothing.

It’s an empty feeling, isn’t it?  Is it the reason most people give up setting goals?  Likely.

Why is it happening to so many people despite the huge amount of material out there?

Would you like to know why you and others are not achieving those goals which have been neatly and carefully written?

The reasons are many, of course.  All people have some reason, not all the same.  And, each year there seems to be different reasons why not much has been accomplished towards achieving goals.

The last time you took a course or read a book, you thought for sure, this time, you would get there.  When you’re relaxed, everything seems possible.  Then, the pile ups happen.  All kinds of things happen.  Often, it has to do with work and health.  Long hours at work, even for a few months, can throw everything else out the window.  Or your health is impacted or someone else’s.  All of a sudden, it’s chaos.  You barely have the time to do laundry!

What has happened to your goals?  Can you even find them?

And that’s the problem with most goal setting courses and systems – you set a lot of goals in various parts of your life and, of course, even after all the terrific exercises are done, your life is still there – nothing has changed.  All that has happened is that you’ve invested time in this exercise, hoping you can do something to get your dreams to meet reality!

That’s the rub – you’ve still got a full life so how do you put all of those new things into it and expect to achieve them all?  You can’t.  That’s the truth.  It’s impossible.

The reason is simple:  your life was full before you began setting goals and it is still full after it.  Goals require attention and work.  Where will you fit them all in?

Every single goal needs work and work takes time.  That time may or may not be available in your current schedule. This is the point where most people fall flat – making room for the work involved in achieving a goal.

Let’s say you want to take up golf as your exercise this year.  An average round of golf takes at least 4 hours or more.  Where will you fit it  in?  Where will you fit in:  finding a reputable instructor, attending classes, practicing on the range, playing with friends, buying clubs and other equipment you’ll need.  It’s a great goal but where, in your schedule, will you find the time?

If you were already doing it and it was part of your regular schedule, it wouldn’t be a goal, would it?

That’s why I believe most people fail. They simply have not taken into account the time factors.  Then, they feel like failures and, year after year, they try again until one year, they simply give up.

If you want to try one more time, try the system I offer you for free on my blog.  It’s a blend of something old and something new, designed to assure that you reach your goals in the future the time management way.

I hope you do try it.  Do let me know how it works out for you.  Just that one little tweak contained in this system may just make the difference between achieving even one goal this year or achieving none – give it a shot.  Once you have achieved one goal, it’s so much easier to achieve the next and the next and the next.  Big goals don’t seem so onerous any longer – and your confidence rises – success builds upon success!

Lorraine Arams

Do You Think Time Management Habits are Overrated?

the question about time managementDo you think time management is overrated?

Yes and then, again, no – it depends on the person and situation

Time management is important, I agree – to some degree.  What is that degree?

The degree to which you are experiencing consistent satisfaction and happiness in your life.  Beyond that, time management becomes an obssession rather than a tool to get what you want out of your life.   So, if you are not satisfied with your life, it’s a clear indication that you need some level of time management in your life.

When Should You Learn Time Management Techniques

If you are always upset, rushed, out of control, missing appointments, missing deadlines and feeling empty despite the fact that your days are jammed with activity, then you need new time management habits.  Better habits are a requirement to stop the stress, the madness, the impact you have on others.

However, that being said, there is no “one size fits all”.  Humans and life do not operate in neat little boxes – people are all different, each seeing the world quite differently than the person next to them.  Each person is unique.  To that end, time management tools are just that tools – habits which may help or not.  The only person who can know if it works or not is the person trying them out – no matter what the gurus tell you.

What Will It Take

Time and patience.  Why?  You need to learn different systems from different people and pick  something from each one that will solve one of your time management problems until you have developed your own system which works for you.

Sometimes the technique will work and sometimes it won’t.  Just keep trying new things until you find what works in your life – believe me, there are many techniques which will work.  Incorporate them into a system which works!

How will someone know if a time management technique works or not? Life will get better little by little, stress will diminish and the person will begin to know that they can have a positive effect on their own world.

Are time management habits overrated?  It depends whether or not life is feeling good and your dreams are being realized step by step.  If you feel unfulfilled, it’s time to get some new habits.

Start looking at 2011 with a new way to set and achieve your goals – it’s a twist on goal setting but the twist will definitely give you the edge – perhaps the edge you’ve always been looking for.  Visit my site at http://www.wizetime.com, sign up and you’ll get the tool for free!!!  Get ready for 2011 – it’s bound to be better if you plan it out this way!

Lorraine Arams

Lorraine Arams


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Are You Living Your Life by Accident?

accidents of lifeDid you ever ask yourself:  Am I living my life by accident?

Most people haven’t.  Yet, most people do live their lives by accident.

When accidents turn out well, we’re happy and we build a life accordingly.  However, some accidents are not so pleasant and don’t make us happy but we feel we have to “stick it out” for a variety of reasons – our mortgage, our family needs, our car payment, our retirement fund, our job.

Accidents Looking for Success

Many people decided that they would work anywhere which offered a pension and top benefits – that was the first criteria – it didn’t matter whether it were in government or business and it didn’t matter what job they were assigned.

Others wanted only to work for government because it was the “iron rice bowl” of all jobs – you likely would never get fired, you’d have good benefits, not have to do a lot of work, great vacation time and a good pension – all you had to do is do minimum work and keep your head down.

Others decided they wanted to be in a profession a sure thing with social status attached – a doctor, lawyer, dentist, etc – and they went to school, passed the exams and took on the role.

Others couldn’t decide what to do and followed other people’s advice.  They got the training, landed a job and met requirements.

Yet, others, not happy in a particular job and feeling ambitious, bravely undertook career moves which they thought would get them to higher positions.  For some, it materialized; for others, the path was not successful.

And still others followed the path of looking for something which could offer them an outlet for their passion and find a job they loved to do every single day.  Again, some found that happiness while others never were able to locate just the right “thing” that made them rush out of bed in the morning to start another great day.

The Drivers of the “Accidents”

1.  Money

2.  Pleasing others

3.  Ambition

4.  Indecision

5.  Passion

6.  Security

7.  Social Status

Which driver drove your decisions about your career?

Did you think about it when you chose your life’s work?

How about the other parts of your life?

Did you purposely select each part or “did it just happen”?

Did you decide your life’s work say, like this group:

—-   from an early age, they decided what work they wanted to do for the rest of their lives.  They found out what was needed to get where they were going, planned their future as much as possible, interviewed employers to determine whether it was a fit or not, and, when they landed the job they wanted by design, they guided their careers step-by-step through the maze of the workplace.  How often will you find these people?  Not often.  How did they know to work such a plan?  Some say that they found a mentor early on and others were guided by their parents and yet others discovered this planning strategy totally by accident.  It made sense to them, and they followed it – it worked.

Eventually, however, everyone comes to the same conclusion – you really do have to plan where you want to be and how you are going to get there.  The how involves a lot of reading, connecting with people who are already doing what you want to be doing to find out what is required and, hopefully, connecting with a couple of people who are willing and able to either coach or mentor you along the way.  You design and plan; work the plan adjusting as required; continually connect with those willing to help you and you keep track of your progress.  Adjusting the plan is mandatory because situations or the economy or other factors change and the plan needs to adapt to changes.

And so it is with everything in one’s life.  There are choices.

Is it ever too late?

Perhaps.  It may be too late to become an Olympic athlete or a star basketball player with the big leagues.  It may be too late to become the head of a major corporation or it may be too late to become a great race car driver.

Think of Grandma Moses – she became a well-known painter after the age of 80 – her kids were grown and she decided to paint.  Think of Winston Churchill – was he too old to lead England to victory over the Germans?  Or how about Cornelius Vanderbilt – was he too old in his 70’s to become a railroad entrepreneur when all of his life had been devoted to the shipping business?  How about the 50-year old who did commercials for Bowflex in a bikini – was she too old?!

There are a multitude of examples of people going back to school, finishing a degree and doing the work they’ve always longed to do!  How about you?  Where are you in the spectrum?  Are you willing to strike out and plan your new life?  Or will your life simply continue as it has been – a life lived by accident?

The choice is yours.

Is it easy?  No and especially in the economic upheavals we are currently experiencing.  For many people, this is a time of survival – get a job, any job just to put food on the table.  Can they still live the life they want?  Yes.  Though it will take longer and may suffer some setbacks along the way because of situations out of their control but when the sun shines through again, they’ll be ready to glow!

Why is it a good thing? Because it keeps the flame of hope alive!  That is all we have – hope – and when hope no longer exists, it’s difficult to keep going.  However, when you are working your plan, hope is alive and well no matter what else you have to do.

What will your choice be? Do leave me a comment on my blog and let me know how you are doing – what you’ve decided to do with the rest of your life!

And pick up, for free, my version of goal setting – it’s a twist which may very well, for the first time in your life, have you setting and achieving goals.  Just sign up to my blog and you’ll have access immediately – what a great way to get ready for 2011!!!

Lorraine Arams

Do You Feel Rushed During the Holidays?

tree, candles and fireplace serenityDo you feel serene during the holidays?  Or do you feel almost overwhelmed?  Do you rush?

The holiday season is upon us and, by now, with Thanksgiving, Halloween, and Remembrance Day within weeks of one another, the Christmas celebration time can be exhausting!

There are luncheons, parties, special events, decorating, gift buying, and the music to get “everyone in the mood”!  Can you feel the energy rising?  Everywhere we look, everyone we talk to you and all we do seems to have an element associated with Christmas – so many people to thing of and so much to do.


Slow Down!

Think alternatives!

Can you do it all?

Yes, within reason and with a lot of discipline.

First and foremost, put yourself first.  That’s key.  Exercise to keep your energy up, continue to eat well and limit alcohol intake.  How?

Exercise is important all year round – you might cut your exercising from 5 or 7 days a week to 3 – for the month of December only.  It’s very exhausting attending all kinds of events, talking to new and old acquaintances and preparing for your ownfestivities.  Give yourself a break.

Eating well doesn’t have to be a challenge.  At events, look for the healthiest offerings and indulge sparingly – taste what you eat and if you’re in conversation, don’t eat – it’ll save a lot of calories and embarrassing moments!

Wine and spirits are offered everywhere.  Perhaps have a glass of wine but then switch to a sparkling water or club soda.  Pop won’t do it.  The sugar content of pop is much too high.  This way you won’t have to worry about making a fool of yourself because you drank too much and you’ll wake up healthy and bright the next morning.

Flit – learn to flit – what does that mean?  It means that when you accept invitations, schedule them carefully to be within short distances of one another and preferably on your route home.  For instance, if there are 3 cocktail parties on one day.  Attend the one furthest away from your route home, arrive early, stay no more than 1/2 hour and go to the next one.  Same routine with the next one  – 1/2 hour – and leave and move on to the third one.   At all three, make sure you have connected with the host of the event, thanked him or her and leave quietly without fanfare.   In 1 1/2 hours you’ll have attended 3 events without wearing yourself out!  If you watch carefully, you’ll see that a lot of people doing the same.

For each thing on your list, ask yourself if you really need to do it yourself or even do it at all?  What will be the consequences of not doing any one particular thing?  Can you live with the consequences?

There’s a lot to do during the holiday season.  Choose carefully. Save your energy.  Save your time. And think very carefully of how you spend your time and energy every single day.  After all, you’ll want to be fully awake and energized when Santa arrives!

Lorraine Arams

Computer Short Cuts Save Time – Do You Use Them?

shortcutComputer short cuts –

they can save you a lot of time

The other day, I was searching through my Twitter account and someone was offering a free list of computer short cuts.  Some of these short cuts I knew about and others were new to me.

Interestingly, some of the comments on the blog were quite negative.  Some people felt it was insulting to them and others thought it was a dumb post.  I thought it was a great post because often, we forget and there are so many short cuts out there, who can possibly know them all.

Here are some useful ones you can use every day all the time:

Ctrl + A = select all the text you want

Ctrl + C = copy

Ctrl + V = paste

Ctrl + X = cut

Ctrl + S = save

Home and End to get to the top or bottom of documents

Here’s one we are not likely to use all the time until our computer freezes up or slows down:

Ctrl-Shift-Escape to start the Task Manager

Some web browser shortcuts which may help you if you are not already aware of them:

Ctrl + T = open new tab

Ctrl + N = open new window

Ctrl + to zoom in and Ctrl – to zoom out

To go to a particular tab you have open, simple use Ctrl-number of the tab you want to open; say you want to open the first tab simply use Ctrl-1 and close tabs you don’t want any more using Ctrl-F4

Use Run to access tools eg Windows calculator – simply type calc in run box – there are 21 of them and you might something you can use:


If we don’t use something all the time, we tend to forget and go back to using the long methods of getting where we want to go.

Hope this list of shortcuts will help you find something useful or something you may have forgotten to use which might come in handy now.

Lorraine Arams



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