Yesterday, I met a couple. She is a stay-at-home housewife and mother with three children. She asked me what I did. When I told her about my time management business, she said: “I need that” And her husband chimed in agreement.
We soon discovered that she had a different style than his. Was her style wrong or right?
Style is often criticized. What seems like disorganization to the observer can actually be quite an effective way to manage time based on the demands.
Is any style okay? How do you know whether or not your time management is effective?
There’s one main question to ask yourself:
“Does my style of time management negatively impact me?”
That’s right – you – not anyone else. Just you. If the answer is yes, then, yes, change is warranted if you want – and yes, then do get someone to help “tweak” the way you manage your time. If the answer is no, your style is working for you!
Notice one important thing here – this determination has nothing to do with what other people think or feel about how you manage your time – the main concern is whether it works for you.
Housewives and mothers have a difficult time with this concept because they are used to caring for everyone in the household and often used to being criticized especially when others feel that she is not meeting their needs. As the main caregiver of the children as they grow up, the household affairs, school involvement, illnesses and a host of other demands on a woman’s time, the woman often loses a sense of time ownership.
It’s different than a regular job – theirs is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year for, often, for a couple of decades or more. It’s a lot of work and energy output. When a child falls and cries, a mother drops everything to check it out. When a child or husband is sick, her time is turned upside down. When her kids’ friends come over to “watch the game”, she is preparing snacks and often cleaning up after them. When her husband entertains outside the home, she is expected to look her most “beautiful” and be an excellent conversationalist – she “is” so many things to so many people!
Does her time management work for her? That’s the only question with which she needs to concern herself.
The way she manages her time may impact others, that’s true. But, truly, that’s their problem – and they must make arrangements to mediate those issues as they would in any other part of their lives with any other person. Just because someone is a mother and a housewife does not mean she is not herr own person perfectly capable of assessing what needs to get done and when. She is, after all, a member of the family – not a servant – and a perfectly, highly functioning adult capable of a host of skills and abilities not required of any other member of the household. She is the only one to know whether or not she needs help with time management based on her results, not opinion.
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