If You’re Stressed, How do you Change – Part II


This is how you might be feeling with stress!

In my last article, I gave you some quick ways to begin the process of “de-stressing”.   Stress has many layers and if you want to change, you need to try many things before you know what works for you.   

I indicated that we would be looking at a few more ways to help you in achieving or regaining control over your own life.   

I’ll repeat something I said in the previous article:  no one can de-stress in a short period of time though anyone can do small things every single day which will build towards that end.  It took a long time to get into the current state and it will take some time to “unravel” the learned behaviors which propelled you into this state in the first place.   

Okay – here are three more things you can do –    

1)  Medical Attention:  I personally am not enamoured with the medical system as it exists today because the focus is mainly on money rather than helping people.  This focus changed when the doctors stopped going to patient’s homes and instead had patients come to them – it took real dedication as a doctor to make “house calls” but today, they allocate 10 minutes per appointment and see as many people as possible to make the most money possible.  Have you ever tried to figure out someone’s problem in 10 minutes?  Can’t be done but anyhow, it is what it is.  There are still many good doctors out there who are patient focused but they are few and far between.   

So how can you get help from the medical community – no matter which way you do it, it’ll be expensive –    

a)  one of the quickest but least desirable is to get a drug.  Yes, drugs do help diminish the symptoms if you are in an acute state of stress but only for a while.  Like any drug, their effectiveness wears out fairly quickly and the answer to that, of course, is to increase the dosage.  I ask you this, however:  do you really need to another problem to your list of issues?  I think it’s better to find more “natural” ways to cope   

b)  talk to a psychologist or a psychiatrist who specializes in acute stress issues.  This process will be a long one and expensive.  You might want to consider alternatives   

2)  Alternative Medicine – This is a better avenue, however, be very careful what you buy into – it may end up being more expensive and no more effective than the standard medical world.  And make sure that the people you are dealing with are properly trained from an accredited school – there are many claims made by many people who know very little especially in pyramid marketing.  Nonetheless, some techniques work very well for some people such as:   

a)  Massage – For me, this is the very best of all if you can afford it.  Why?  Because it “gives the body a break”!  When a person is stressed out, the body takes a real hit – the tension builds up in the muscles and tendons making the body stiff and sore, the organs don’t work well because they are trying to cope with a body and mind under siege and the mind, well, we all know how “crazy” our mind gets.     

Make sure that the person providing the massage is a licensed practitioner from a good school.  Why?  Because a lot of people call themselves massage therapists but have no more than 2 months of training if at all – it’s not enough.  The program should be at least a year and they should have graduated.  And there are many different spas – try several to see which one you prefer – some are wonderful, others are tacky.   

What type of massage?  You’ll have to decide for yourself.  There’s the Swedish, Shiatsu, Deep Tissue – just to name a few and each one has its benefits.  I started with Deep Tissue but many people simply can’t take the impact.  And a massage less than an hour is ineffective.     

Massage will help your mind, your emotions and your body – you may find yourself crying as the body releases the tension and you may even sob – all if it very, very good for you.   

It’s expensive – at first, you’ll likely need a massage twice a week for a while, then once week until you see yourself getting under control – and settle into a massage routine of every second or third week.  The health benefits are enormous!   

b)  Biofeedback – There are many charletans in this arena – biofeedback with a licensed and experienced practitioner can be very effective though it does take many sessions and should really be accompanied by some counseling.   

c)  Counseling – There are some good counselors but, again, it’s finding the right one.   

d)  Coaching – Coaching can be a good alternative and it also takes time.  Some coaches charge outrageous amounts of money and this is the least effective of all.  Anyone can be a coach and, even the coaches with accreditation are simply accredited to be  coach, not a counselor.  Coaching works best in other arenas where the process is more specific.   

3)  Books – there are many excellent books, however, the problem with books is that they are written for the general population, not you personally.   Nonetheess, a good book is very helpful and reading is something which can be done a little bit every day.   

 Feeling Good is one of those books that was written long ago but is still one of the most effective books on the market.  It’s very good especially for anyone who wants real knowledge from someone who worked with stressed people and was able to help them.  Another helpful resource is Stress Management – a comprehensive guide to wellness.    

Next, we’ll look at some “home remedies” for stress.   

Why am I giving you all these suggestions?  Because each one helps in its own way and no one knows, not even you, exactly what will be the right combination of things to do in order to “de-stress” and get back to a healthy state for your body and mind.  Stress and how to effect change is a process even though your tendency is to get a “quick fix” – you’re in so much agony – you just want relief!     

Stress is the result of a combination of factors – it’s never just one thing though it may be just one thing that really takes your stress from normal to a state of “over the top”.  Breath – take a lot of deep breaths all day long every day!   

Lorraine Arams
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