WIZE TIME MANAGEMENT

Is Time Management Static? 

It would seem so when people talk about time management.  “I adopted this, it works well” 

However, time management needs to be fluid.  No person is a robot.  Everyone’s life changes constantly even when we think it remains the same. There’s nothing, absolutely nothing, static of about anyone’s life.  What works well at one point in life may not be so effective under different circumstances.

Ebbs and Tides – the colors of life

The ebbs and tides of life require adjustments and that’s why so many people get into trouble with managing their time. 

24 hours – that’s all we have – 24 hours – no more, no less, no matter what circumstances have appeared in your life.  The big mistake people make is simply not adjusting for life’s ever changing tides, not even the expected ones.

For instance, a couple expecting a baby reel with excitement.  They are told by friends and family that their lives will change.   Armed with this valuable knowledge, do most couples think ahead?  Most of often not.  Baby comes and exhaustion sets in.

What if these soon-to-be new parents sat down ahead of baby’s arrival and mapped out their time commitments – what will change, what will each person  give up and how will everyone’s needs be accommodated?  Remember, baby is an “add in” – something has to be taken out to make space.  Baby doesn’t much care.  Baby needs what baby needs when it needs it and, if anyone around them is stressed and anxious, so will baby.  Baby will pick up on the “vibes” of the parents and react accordingly.  Everyone’s stress rises even more!

Stress

I sincerely believe that if people did more of this kind of give and take planning with their schedules before major events  in their lives, people would reduce their stress levels.  

Every time something new enters our lives, we must give up something else -  two separate objects cannot occupy the same space.  For instance, if you have a couch in your living room, your chairs cannot occupy the same space as your couch.  Chairs will take up a certain amount of square footage and so will your couch.

As fluid as our lives are, time management must work in tandem with this ever changing landscape.

Lorraine Arams
http://www.wizetime.com

STAYING CALM -IT’S AT A PREMIUM!

It’s so wonderful to be calm.  We love it, don’t we?  Even the most hyper of us love the feeling of calm.

Today

In our busy world, calm seems to be at a premium.  If our cell phones aren’t ringing or vibrating, someone is honking at us.  At work, emails come in fast and furious, the phones ring, people “drop by” to talk, someone asks for help, and we run to the gym at lunch hour where the machines whirl, bang and people grunt and fret – oh, no, another pound!

How can we stay calm when from the time the alarm clock rings, we are surrounded by noise, demands and schedules?

Here are a few ways to help you “sneak in” some calm into your day, every day:

1. Breathe:  On your computer, set an automatic reminder every hour on the hour, to take 10 deep breaths.  It’s a quick way to make sure the anxiety and stress doesn’t build up to a peak by the end of the day. Breath in down to your belly and breath out to empty your lungs.
   

2. Stretch: Put another reminder on your computer every hour or hour and a half, to stretch your body.  Stress builds up in the body and stretching for 5 minutes several times a day can release your body from the tightness which can build up.

3. Nature: Every single day, even if it is only for 15 minutes, go outside, smile at a dog, watch the wind in the trees – get back to nature somehow.  We’re indoors a lot and just that fact alone can start making us feel like a caged animal.  Free yourself, go outside, appreciate a flower!

4. Gadget: Invest $10 in a stress squeeze ball and take it to meetings with you.  When you start feeling any negative feeling, squeeze the hell out of it!  You’ll feel better and stay in control of your feelings.

5. The Written Word: Write down everything that is whirling around in your head.  It clears the brain and releases the emotion associated with them.

6. Sleep: Schedule the sleep you need – all of it!  Sleep should be the most important part of your schedule.  Without sleep, all your activities take longer and your emotions are closer to the surface. You can waste a lot of time trying to get yourself to “wake up” or “energized”.  Use that time to sleep instead!

Calm is good!  Calm makes your day go much better even if someone screams at you for no reason!  Calm is a good habit to cultivate for the enormous benefits it gives us!

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Lorraine Arams

What exercise is best to help reduce stress?

The type which does not add more stress!

Everyone is different.

For some, they come back from a ten-mile run, and they feel relaxed.  Others come back from a similar run and are exhausted, more stressed than when they left because their bodies hurt so much and others can’t do without the exhilaration of pushing their bodies to the nth degree – somehow the pain is satisfying.

And for yet others, a long walk or yoga gives them a wonderful feeling.  Their bodies react well.  For others, yoga is too slow or they don’t have the flexibility to deal with all the poses. And for others, Pilates is ideal.

Weights are a favorite for certain people.  They “pump iron” for hours every day and the cardio represents an interruption into what they love.  Others can’t stand going to the gym and especially lifting weights.

Many people enjoy sports.  One person told me that he plays sports all year round and would never dream of going to the gym.

The important factor

The most important thing to your exercise program – and yes, exercise is critical to stress reduction – is that you enjoy what you’re doing!

Why?  Because you’ll actually do it!  You’ll look forward to your exercise time and have no trouble keeping it up because of the incredible benefits you receive from it -

Benefits of Regular Exercise

Besides handling stress much better, regular exercise has many benefits:

the obvious ones are:

• burn fat
• increase cardiovascular functioning
• increase the good feeling endorphins

the not so obvious

• better functioning  organs
• increased blood flow to the brain
• clearing up metabolic waste products
• helping posture
• maintaining good lung capacity and therefore more oxygen throughout your body for good health
  
• helping to avert disease and can even reverse some diseases

Is there anything else which can help the body and reduce stress?

Yes.  Deep breathing, stretching, massage, aromatherapy, meditation.  Each one has physiological benefits for the body.  Again, it’s a matter of preference though this last four can benefit anyone who indulge in their own way.  For instance, meditation is not necessarily sitting crossed legged in a quiet room reciting the same word over and over again.  Meditation for some can be sitting in the park watching squirrels run up and down the trees and admiring beautiful flowers or listening to a brook.

Aromatheraphy can be simply using your favorite scented hand cream and a massage can simply be rubbing your temples or using a massage wand or chair.

Throughout the day you can:-

• stretch -  stand up every couple of hours and touch your toes, lean backwards slightly, lean your head side to side and front to back, rotate shoulders, stretch arm triceps overhead, stretch hamstrings – just 5 minutes and you can feel refreshed.  You can find a lot of stretching.  Here’s a couple of videos from YouTube – you can find a lot of videos on YouTube
• Throughout the day, take 10 deep breaths as often as possible.  Make the breath reach as far down and across as possible.
• While standing, be conscious of your posture – adjust accordingly and breath.
• If you can, meditate for 5 or 10 minutes at breaks or lunch hours.

• just sitting and enjoying peace and quiet

There are many, many avenues for relaxation of the body and of the mind – you’ll find quite a few videos on YouTube and elsewhere – this has just been a sampling to give you an idea – you might just find something you really enjoy.

Exercise is a key to good health and reducing stress in your life if you love what you are doing.  Here is one instance in which loving the method of exercise is critical and adding different ways to reduce the stress in your body holds incredible benefits.

Lorraine Arams

http://www.wizetime.com

What do you eat when you are feeling “over-the-top” stress?

Fresh!

Fresh vegetables, fresh fish, fresh meat and fresh fruit are your best antidote to stress.  Why?  Vitamins and minerals.

The more we do to food, the less nutritious it is.  Fast food has only one redeeming quality:  fast.  For an already stressed body, fast food adds that much more stress to a system which is already exhibiting the ravages of acute stress.  It’s very difficult to digest the sugars and fats contained in fast food.

Try to make those fresh food items organic as much as possible.

Stress revs up the production of insulin and cortisol.  This is one of the reasons that some people, under constant stress, gain a lot of weight contrary to the popular belief that stress makes you thin.  In fact, in some people, going on holidays helps them get thinner because their body is not producing excess insulin and cortisol. Fresh food, high in fiber, helps regulate those hormones.

Your digestive process is affected by stress as well as every other part of your body. Therefore, it is critical that you pay attention to the amount of fiber in your diet.  Our tendency is to reach for the high carbohydrates and sugars such as potatoes and candy to give us that “boost”.  With any boost, also comes the “crash”.

Good Habits

There is nothing here that you don’t already know but, if you’re acutely stressed, you likely don’t do:

• drink plenty of water throughout the day
• eat low fat proteins such as fish, chicken, turkey
• snack on fresh fruit such as apples, berries, oranges, grapefruit – have a bowl of apples on your desk -
  
• eat fresh vegatables as much as possible – with all the colors, shapes, textures, and flavors, there’s something for everyone – stir fries during the week for dinner are quick and colorful and eating raw vegetables or salad (limit dressing) for lunch with some protein is ideal
  
• limit the amount of starchy foods such as bread, rice, pasta and potatoes.  When you do enjoy them, make sure they are items such as brown or wild rice, whole grain pasta and breads, and preferably sweet potatoes as opposed to regular potatoes and preferably baked, not fried.
• consume dairy for calcium – milk, cottage cheese, small amounts of cheese
• instead of coffee, drink herbal teas – there are so many flavors on the market today which are non-caffeine, it can be a great new adventure to discover them all

Additional Help for Your Body

Do remember too to take supplements -

• overall good multiple vitamin
• extra multiple vitamin B
• essential fatty acids preferably from good sources of cold water fish oil
• if you’re having digestive problems, digestive enzymes  or acidophilus
  
• vitamin C – at least 1000 milligrams a day
  
• Vitamin E, Selenium, CoQ10
  
• magnesium/calcium assists hormone levels

There are some herbs which can be helpful and can be taken as a tincture or tea as magnolia bark, passionflower, valerian, St. John’s Wort, Kava Kava, Lavender.  My favorite is lavender on my pillow at night, in my hand lotion during the day, and in the potpourri form in my clothes drawers.

Pay attention to what goes into your body and what foods your body has a negative reaction to.  If you experience acid reflux, apple cider vinegar in a glass of water clears it up.

Can Food Help Reduce Stress?

Of course!  A healthy body gives you the resilience to cope and the brain power to find solutions.  If your body is having to deal with food which only stresses it such as high carbohydrate or high fat, it’s adding stress rather than relieving it not to mention how awful you feel overall.

Eat well, drink wisely, and help your body give you the energy you need to cope with your stresses.

It’s easy – just think fresh!

Lorraine Arams

http://www.wizetime.com

What can you do to prevent Stress?

Nothing!

Stress is a part of human existence no matter where you are or how you live in the world.

Every Day Stresses

Hunger is a stress and we solve that issue by eating.  Being tired is stressful – we sleep to relieve that problem.  Commuting to work is stressful as we stay alert to road conditions, other drivers’ actions, unpredictable events, etc., however, some people relieve that stress with music or conversation or listening to the radio or educational materials.  Taking care of our needs and our family’s needs is stressful, however, we have our own business or go to our job to meet the costs of providing.

Stress Reference

The reference point as to whether we call what we do stressful or not is the degree of stress we are feeling.

What people refer to as “being stressed out” is the degree of stress they are feeling and viewed as a negative in their lives.

For instance, if they are competing in a sport they enjoy, there is the stress of competition but people don’t see it as negative – they subject themselves to that form of stress because they both enjoy the sport and the process of competition looking forward to the reward of the win!  However, no one would deny that competing is stressful.

If a close family member is struck by a car and is in serious condition in the hospital, people view that stress as negative – “stressful” and it impacts all other aspects of their lives because of the anticipation of a possible loss.

When Stress is a Good Thing

Stress in our lives is a good thing – it propels us to action.  If we are faced with danger, we escape.  If we are faced with a difficult problem, we find solutions.  If we are faced with competition, we plan and execute our time to win.  If we accept the responsibility of marriage, we capture the rewards of a trusting and loving relationship.

When we are thinking that there is a positive outcome to the stress we feel, then we are able to accept the stress and work with it.

When Stress is a Bad Thing

Stress is bad when it is viewed as a negative and a possible loss is anticipated.  If you’re not happy at your job and hate your boss’s behavior, your stress is acute because you are trying to keep your job but the working conditions create anxiety and likely dysfunctional behaviors on your part; you fear the loss of your job.  If a child is seriously ill, there can be consequences to that illness which are difficult to bear.

“Distress”, therefore, is caused by viewing the situation as a possible loss of something or someone important to you.

What Can You Do About Stress?

In general on an every day basis, whether the stress is viewed as positive or negative, the answer lies in accepting that the only moment you have is the one you are living right now.  It’s an odd concept.  When I first heard that concept, I couldn’t understand it at all!  But then I listened more – and dared to practice it no matter how foreign it seemed.  It started with Oprah’s series about an odd book called, A New Earth.  Then, I picked up a copy of The Power of Now by the same author, Eckhart Tolle –

Today

Whenever I start feeling acute stress – good or bad – I simply get “into the moment” – it’s not as airy fairy as it sounds – it’s really the ticket to controlling the levels of stress and “keeping your feet on the ground”.

It does take practice – over and over again – until that is the place I go to whenever I feel stressed or overwhelmed or uncomfortable in any situation.  It clears my mind, calms the emotions, and allows for better reactions or non-actions to situations which arise.

There is nothing you can do to prevent stress in your life but there is something you can do to reduce its impact on your life at any given moment.

Lorraine Arams

http://www.wizetime.com

Time is your greatest asset – bar none!

Often a lack of time is blamed for the stress we feel but in actual fact, as an asset, the stress comes a foundational problem with how we use our time.  After all, time is a one-way street!

Why we use our time the way we do?

We’re raised to “do our duty”, to over-achieve or under-achieve, to follow or rebel against social norms and a host of other socially acceptable living standards depending on where you are raised.  However, within any context of how we are trained in leading our human lives, it never dawns on us to view time as our greatest asset because we are trained “to do” instead of think, plan and execute how we will use our time for our own satisfaction.

How Should We Be Using our Time?

Our own satisfaction – that’s at the crux of using time to reduce stress. There is nothing more to it than that simple concept but we resist it with all our might in order to fulfill the teachings of others who also were likely quite ineffective in using their time for their own satisfaction.

Instead, most people were taught to “perform their duty”,  sacrifice, obey, rebel, conform, etc.  For whom?  For others!  Why?  To comply to societal norms whatever that might be.  And the focus, therefore, is on the outside world.  It is the inside world which is far more important.

How Difficult Can that Be?

For most people, if they try to manage their time based on what they want, the process is very uncomfortable because the reason to do anything is based on what they want which means, of course, saying no to people and concepts which have ruled their lives to that point.  How often do you hear people saying, “It’s so hard to motivate myself for what I want”?  That’s how ingrained the notion that our time belongs to others.

As an example, if a woman is told that she must have a full-time job, run home to cook dinner for the family, clean up the household and care for the children, she will undertake that expectation, feel stress and think she is “defective” because she has trouble coping.  However, if that same woman decides one day to care for herself first and build her schedule around that new concept, the first thing she’ll need to do is refuse to “do it all”.  She’ll assign tasks to her children and her husband, hire help and take time for her own life rather than devote her life – her time – to the needs of others – job and family.  Big, big shift in thought process!  Emotions run high!

What are the Rewards?

If  you use your time for your own satisfaction first and foremost, you’ll be amazed how difficult it is at first and, yet if you persist, the rewards will be a richer, more fulfilled life with less stress, more health, more happiness and a great sense of self-satisfaction in achieving your dreams.  You’ll find greater success in every part of your life because the “winds of demands from others” are no longer your driving force!  Think about it . . . . you might just like it!

Lorraine Arams

http://www.wizetime.com

Can you reduce your stress level with time management?

It depends.

If the level of stress is still manageable, then, yes, time management techniques can help.  However, when stress levels are acute, time management can, if not used properly, actually increase stress levels.

When I was in acute stress, I wanted a quick fix – I wanted relief from the intense pressure of stress NOW!  Of course, that’s not really possible unless a person is knocked unconscious or takes a sedative, neither of which address the stress issue.

However, even in acute levels of stress, it is possible, if you are willing, to give yourself some liberation from the intensity of what you are feeling.   If you are willing, then let’s start simply.

Here’s how:

1.  Get yourself a cup of tea or coffee, a pen, a big piece of paper, you date book . . . . and give yourself a break! That’s a good start since you likely don’t feel you can really take a break right now – that’s your first step into good, sound time management – taking care of yourself first!

2.  On the piece of paper, make five columns along the width of the paper:

• Things on my To Do List
• Is it necessary for me to do
• I can delegate it to
• Date & Time to be completed
• Schedule
  

3.  In the first column number and list every single thing you think you need to get done.

4.  Now comes the analysis part in the next 4 columns:

• Is it necessary for me to do – sometimes we feel we need to do everything but actual fact we don’t.  Be honest with yourself – do you really need to do it?  Why?
• I can delegate it to – when we’re stressed out, we don’t think clearly.  And we think it’s faster for us to do it all rather than get people to help.  It’s not!! That’s a story our minds make up because for every single thing that comes off your list that someone else at work or at home can do, gives you that time back. It could be that you think the housework has to get done.  It does – we have all have  it to do.  If you have an intense job and longer hours, then hire someone to do your housework for you.  A person concentrating on cleaning can get a lot done in 3 hours that might take you a lot longer!  Delegate chores to family members if you have a family and at work, delegate tasks to members of your team and your colleagues.
• Date and Time to be completed – your list now should be a lot shorter.  Put and date and time on each one when each one needs to be completed.
• Schedule - in your day book, enter the items to which you have assigned a date and time.
  

Okay, can you feel the pressure coming off a bit?  Likely especially if you have given yourself permission to delegate some of those tasks to other people – yes, other people can do things as well as we can or perhaps even better and we don’t have micro-manage them either! For someone under acute stress, this is one of the most difficult things to do!

Delegation means:  clearly defining the end results we want the person to achieve, giving them the tools they need, providing them with a deadline date and time and letting them accomplish the task the way they want.

For the next couple of weeks, I will be covering more stress and time management issues so stay tuned!

A site you might interested in reading is:

http://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/stress-management-topic-overview

http://marenda.biz/2010/01/how-to-cure-stress-3-ways-to-cure-your-stress/

Lorraine Arams
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At home – feeling good!

What  do I mean by “home remedies” to relieve your stress? 

 It means doing things in your home which counter your stress levels.        

When you get home, do you feel even more stress or do you feel more relaxed?  Why?  What is it about your home which makes you feel that way?      

If it’s calming, then try to repeat it in the rest of your home – colors, furniture, quiet, music, or you arrive before everyone else  and you have that little bit of time all to yourself – what is it that contributes to the relaxation effect?  Repeat.      

If coming home adds to stress levels, what exactly is the “thing” that creates more anxiety?  Is it the mess?  Is it the unwashed dishes?  Is it immediate demands on you by others in the household?         

What change can you make which would allow you what you need to feel more relaxed when you get home?  DO IT – NOW – TODAY – If it’s the mess, clean up before you go to bed at night including washing the dishes – schedule the time and do it – or delegate it – kids and spouses can be assigned the chores – and don’t jump in to do it – instead hold their feet to the fire and get them to clean up.  If it’s demands, let your family know that you will be going into your room for 30 minutes when you get home and you are not to be disturbed – don’t respond when there’s a knock on the door – they’ll eventually learn.  And so on.        

Then make appointments with yourself for self-care – stick to them too - otherwise you’re lying to yourself and you’ll feel even worse.  For instance, say that on Sunday night, you’d like an hour and a half for personal grooming and a bath.  Schedule it and let others in the household know that it’s your special time and you don’t want to be disturbed unless the “house” is burning down!  Spend that time grooming and relaxing – music, candles, a glass of wine, a tub pillow and lots and lots of bubble bath – do your manicure and pedicure – read a little – even nap a little . . . .       

What are the home remedies?      

• decor
• delegation
• agreements with other members of the household
• time for yourself – it’ll make you feel good about yourself because you care enough to take time solely for you (yes, even if you have young children – your spouse can care for them and respect your space)
• grooming – there’s nothing that makes a person feel better when they look better – manicures and pedicures really do that for a person – the benefits last the whole week – you look good!
• wine – a glass of wine relaxes you – not a whole bottle – a glass or two of wine really help the relaxation factor
• bubble bath – it makes you feel luxurious – and add sea salt and epsom salt to help your body soothe tired muscles and skin
• tub pillow and a big fat luxurious towel – the tub pillow relaxes the neck muscles and provides support for the head and the towel adds to that sense that you are taking good care of yourself
• candles – get a scent that you love – the scent is a great way to tell the brain this is “me time” and I’m relaxing here –
• nap – it refreshes you –

How does that feel do you think?  Good – you betcha!      

Home remedies consist of many facets of your life at home and each one is designed for self-care.        

If you care for yourself, you’ll be more relaxed and able to tackle the challenges life offers – look good, feel good – a good foundation for good time management.  Will it end there?  Of course not but this is a good beginning and, once you experience the benefits, you’ll likely stick to them –       

• feeling good about yourself
• feeling good about the fact that others love you enough to accept sharing chores instead of dumping everything on your shoulders and not disturbing you during “time for yourself alone”
• looking good because you take the time to care for yourself and feel more in control of world 
• keeping promises to yourself for yourself

Hmmmmm – sound good?      

What does this have to do with time management – why would a site dedicated to time management talk about stress?  Relieve stress and time management becomes easier.  Everything affects our ability to manage our time effectively.     We’ll look at the connection in a future blog. 

 Lorraine Arams
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If you’re stressed, how do you change?

There are as many ways as there are people.  No one way is right for everyone.

However, there is one consistent truth:  changing from stressed to a de-stressed life can only be done incrementally - there is no “QUICK FIX” – been there – done that – it doesn’t work!  It took a long time to build up to this acute stress level and it will takes time to unravel these adopted behaviors and thoughts.

And using multiple methods at once will only add to the current stress – it’s better to pick 1, 2 or maximum 3 things to help you and stick with it.

What any of these methods will do for you is to remain conscious of your stress, monitor it and make the changes to your life which will reduce that stress.

Here are a few strategies.  Try them all – one at a time.  It’s the best way to know which one works best for you - the key here in terms of managing your time – don’t try them all at once – try one at a time – but being stressed, you probably want to do them all – NOW – you want a fix now – it won’t happen – and what the result will be even more stress than is currently in place!

My experience with acute stress has taught me that adding more stress is not the answer but learning to de-stress one step at a time IS – I promise.  And, yes, your natural tendency will be to go for the “stress” – but less and less as eventually we all learn that the rewards are much greater than the “buzz” we get from the adrenaline rush!  With every rush, there is a downside – controlling stress levels lessens the impact of any stressor on the mind, body and soul.

Journal – It’s a method that, at first, I thought was silly – imagine talking to yourself and writing it down!  It worked!  It took a little getting used to but I love books and love the feel of a great cover so I bought myself the most luxurious journal I could find.   Though I didn’t journal every day, I found that I liked to “talk to myself” before going to bed – it had a calming effect to get my thoughts down on paper.  To this day, I still journal and I love it –

Affirmations – These were actually not difficult and affirmations don’t let you “forget” to work on the stress issue.  I put my affirmations on my Outlook in recurring events and throughout the day, the affirmations pop up.  Yes, you should really write them out and say them outloud – I understand the effectiveness of that process but, when you’re stressed, it’s the kind of thing that “you’ll do later” but later never comes.  So having them appear on my screen regularly during the day helps.

I call it “programming”.  Affirmations such as:  “In every situation, I remain calm and focused”, “Every day, I manage my stress for best results”,  ”Every day I exercise in a way which relaxes me”  – you get the idea – create some of your own.  Combine it with visualization – as these affirmations pop up at different times of the day, visualize yourself.  For instance, the first affirmation here – see yourself in the most stressful situation you can imagine and see yourself as calm and focused – feel it – calm and focused.

Delegating – One of the key reasons stress has built up is because of the belief that you “need to do it all – it’s your responsibility”  – it’s not!  The only responsibility you have is to yourself.  Everything else can be delegated.  I hear you now – “Are you nuts?  What about my child?  What about my pet?  I have to take care of them”.  This is a typical knee jerk reaction! Get real!

Think about it – 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year you are telling me that you are totally responsible for someone or something else and that no one else can take care of their needs other than you?  Does that sound sane?  Of course not.  What if you get sick?  What would happen then?

Delegating is not abdicating - it’s getting someone else to do something which they can be do equally well or better – okay, maybe not at first, but with the right teaching and practice, they will.

How can you delegate? First, with teaching someone how.  Then, asking them to repeat the instructions to you or watching them do it, correcting anything they didn’t understand.  Lastly, let them do it – their way!

If your child is five or six, they can clean their room – make their bed, put clothes away, set the table, remove dirty dishes from the table – lots and lots of little things.  It helps them learn skills they will utilize their whole lives.  And you’re building self-sufficiency and pride in their that is priceless.

As far as your pet is concerned, a dog walker can walk your dog during the day or your child can change the kitty litter.

There are a ton of ways a person can delegate both at home and at work and even for personal necessities – think about it – I do believe you’ll love the results!  And everyone else in your life will feel better too – they’ll eventually be able to enjoy your company and you, theirs and they’ll enjoy the new, more relaxed you who is not constantly rushing off to do more work you brought home from the office or put the dishes away or cut the grass.

Tomorrow, I’ll outline a few more methods I’ve tried – but if any of these appeal to you, start today.

The easiest one, of course, is creating two or three affirmations and putting them in your Outlook to have them appear in your reminder box throughout the day. (Calendar, New, Type affirmation in subject line, click on recurring on the toolbar and set it to appear daily at whatever time you wish, save).  With affirmations, it seems odd to read the same thing every day and several times during the day but remember how you learned your multiplication - you memorized them by repeating them over and over and over again until you knew them on command.

Lorraine Arams
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