You might think it’s because someone:
- has not found the right system or
- hasn’t taken the right course or
- is undisciplined or
- is disorganized or
- is crazy or
- is plagued with character flaws
Not so . . . time management, as with all other things we learn during our lifetime must have the right foundation. The right foundation to anything we do or are in our lives is firmly established in our thoughts. How do we acquire those thoughts?
How we perceive ourselves and the world has been a slow process of learning from our parents, teachers, society as a whole, books, observations, school, courses, etc. All this information gathering occurs throughout our lifetime but especially as children and collectively, it determines how we will behave on any front in our lives.
It is how we think of ourselves which determines how we do things.
So it is with time management – we can have the very best system in the world at our finger tips but if our thoughts are not focused on the right target, then nothing will work for us – nothing. We can pay $15,000 for a course on time management or $20,000 for coaching or $1,000 for great software but if we simply don’t have the right approach to time management, nothing will work – nothing.
Time management – why do people continue to fail? Because we don’t think our time is our own!
We believe our time belongs to everyone else in our lives.
Why? Because we’ve been trained to think that way. And we’ve been trained that someone else will create the structure for us – because they have for most of our lives. Parents and/or nannies and day care workers structure our activities when we’re very small. When we get to school, the education system determines what we do and when we do it and then most people get a job. The employer structures our time – when we will arrive, when we will take our breaks and when we will leave – and even what they need for us to accomplish. And every other group a person belongs to adds more structure – when church services are held, when meetings are held for your volunteer organization, etc. Well . . . yes . . . otherwise how could we operate as a society? Perhaps that’s true but we really don’t know, do we, since we don’t know any other way.
The time problem, however, is personal. And if our time is “wild and wooly” then it affects our health, relationships and our confidence – we begin to see ourselves as out of control, unable to manage our lives – most people don’t face time management because they know subconsciously that the problem is within them – deep in the psyche – and who wants to go there? Who has the time?
If we don’t take the time to take control of our lives – our time – (without time there is no life), we get what we get – sometimes lives of quiet desperation.
What’s the first step? Putting ourselves first – always – with every decision we make on where we are spending your time. What is our most cherished pay off? How well do we know ourselves and our relationship with time?
It’s the most difficult thing for the majority of people to do – very, very hard. Why? Because it means that WE are NOW in charge of the structure of our lives! What a foreign concept for most people!
I know it exists for sure because I see it all the time with small business people and my own personal experience – the most difficult problem with becoming an entrepreneur if you have never been one is creating your own structure – that’s why most people give up owning their own business – it’s too difficult to create a structure that works for them – one that makes money – they’ve been “trained” in the opposite direction! Most look for a job when the reality of owning a small business sets in – structure around earning money – there are no guesses – we know what time we have to spend and how much we’ll earn – built in structure.
Be sure to look for my series on small business coming soon – as is usual for me, this series will contain some revolutionary notions – sometimes complete departures from the “same old stuff” you’ve been told about small business. In the end, though, these “notions” will save you a lot of time, money and energy!
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